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Sep 04 2009

The Art of Remembering and Interpreting Dreams

Published by Charu M under Guest Coloumn

Shakun Narang wants to share this interesting article with womenlines readers-

At different times in my life, I am a physician, a teacher, a friend and an author, but being a dreamer is what I value the most.

World of Dreams

World of Dreams

Whatever I am doing, I always hear my dreams echoing in a distant underground chamber beneath my thoughts and feelings, attuned to the rhythms of my body and the very substance of the earth. They are my compass and my truth; they guide me and link me to the Divine. They call out to me in an intimate whisper, always knowing how to find me. They speak my real name.

For me, dreaming is a direct line to a place where magic abounds and nothing is without meaning. It is a pristine state of awareness, unpolluted and clear. Direct guidance for healing lies in our dreams, the natural territory of intuition. Here, time and space are non-existent and anything is possible. Like a blank, white canvas, our dream world is a spacious medium where intuition can freely express itself. We have only to listen.

You are in partnership with your dreams. Initiate an ongoing dialogue with them. It’s like consulting the wisest doctor you can imagine who knows you inside out. You can ask your dreams anything. No question is trivial if it is meaningful to you. Expect answers. Some will be direct. Others may require interpretation.

Your dreams can reveal many truths about your life. They can provide extraordinary intuitive insights, and give you information that can help your health, love life and career. You’d be surprised at the straightforward advice that your dreams give, either spontaneously or on request.

Dreams can keep you well. Dreams provide answers. But first you must retrieve them. Here are my four strategies to help you remember your dreams:

  • Keep a journal and pen by your bed.
  • Write a question on a piece of paper before you go to sleep. Formalize your request. Place it on a table beside your bed or under your pillow.
  • In the morning do not wake up too fast. Stay under the covers for at least a few minutes remembering your dream. Luxuriate in a peaceful feeling between sleep and waking, what scientists call the hypnagogic state. Those initial moments provide a doorway.
  • Open your eyes. Write down your dream immediately; otherwise it will evaporate. You may recall a face, object, color, or scenario, feel an emotion. It doesn’t matter if it makes perfect sense-or if you retrieve a single image or many. Record everything you remember.

When you’re finished, refocus on the question you asked the previous night. See how your dream applies. One, two, or more impressions about the who/what/where of your solution may have surfaced. Get in the habit of recording your dreams regularly. Be assured I’ve never met anyone who can’t be taught how to remember. Keep at it. Remember to practice. Soon it will become second nature to you!

In addition to the practical aspects of remembering dreams, there’s an intuitive level to understanding dreams. Reliable intuitive information stands out in very specific ways. Watch for these clues:

  • Statements that simply convey information
  • Neutral segments that evoke or convey no emotion
  • A detached feeling, like you’re a witness watching a scene
  • A voice or person counseling you, as if you’re taking dictation from an outside source
  • Conversations with people you never met before who give instructions.

I’ve found that my most dead-on intuitions either come across as compassionate or have no emotion at all. Develop a careful eye as you practice separating the content of your dreams from your reactions to it. Soon you’ll be able to tell the difference between unreliable guidance and truly reliable guidance.

Be aware that your dreams go by different rules than your waking life. Get ready for a mind shift. Physical laws no longer apply. Gravity changes. In dreams you can fly!

© Judith Orloff, M.D., 2007

This article was adapted from “Guide to Intuitive Healing” by Dr. Judith Orloff, M.D.

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Aug 25 2009

It’s Tough Being a Woman.. Or is it??

Published by Charu M under Guest Coloumn

If there is the most colourful rainbow in the world, it would be a woman..

If there is the most complicated machine in the world, we can call it “Her”

For no oceans depth can match that of a woman’s heart with all its hidden chest of Joy, Happiness, Pain and Sorrow…

I can’t speak for other women, but I do for one, Me..

I may carry a flag that resonates with some and may create factions who would turn against me..

I am afterall a woman with my own mind..

I don’t apologize for being me, neither do I feel regret for my past imperfections

I’ve learnt to defend myself not through the art of Martial defence, but through the art of building a wall around me to keep myself safe within, away from the harsh bombardments of words that know no glimmer of truth to what lies within me..

But alas, how long do I have to stand hiding behind those walls?

The time has come, and I have seen those walls crumble like the Berlin walls, a history within my own world, the day the walls crumble, the day I allow myself to feel, whatever it may be..

To allow the rain drops to fall on my face, to allow the sun to burn my skin, to allow the winds to blow my body as I stand firm holding on to my invisible poles of faith and courage within

I fear none for you and me, we are the same, spiritual beings trapped in a physical form…

I have only reverence for my Creator, to whom I weep and cry my hearts woes.. and to whom I raise my gratitude to…

I have no fear to face the world, no more. Enough of these walls and this iron image..

Enough of running and hiding from the harsh realities that crumbles this frail heart…

I choose to Love openly and with that I take the risk of being hurt, humiliated or ridiculed for my Voice..

It’s the risk that makes me human, to feel, to err, to forgive and let go,to heal and grow ..

Who are you to tell me what I am made of..

Who are you to tell what I ought to feel

Who are you to define happiness or success…

You will never know, how this caterpillar fought in that cocoon to find its way out to fly not for its own freedom, but flying daily to seek out each flower to flower and on its journey, pollinates and creates a new evolution…

That every flap of this wing no matter how insignificant does carry its weight that can even change the course of the weather and life itself…

Oh, but how can I blame you, for you see with those pair of eyes through your filtered lenses…

I can be the ant or the queen, or the butterfly or the lioness hunting, or a mere fly … but I have meaning, purpose and existence to what I do no matter how insignificant..

Success isn’t defined by my occupation in life, who cares if I am a housewife, an office lady with the high heels in the high flying job or a janitor or a president…who cares…

Success is ..it just is, within my realm and domain of what I choose to be best at my playing field..

I celebrate my success and other women’s success wherever and whatever you do, in the best intentions, ….To you my women friends, those I know or don’t , I know and you know, we do what We Can the Best way we Know how, at the Best Resources we have at that moment in time, therefore we are a successful in our own rights, always in continuous pursuit for the higher good of our own self and those around us…

Live in my shoes for a day and you will know the meaning of my life, and until then your opinions remains at best your own reality…for your thoughts of me doesn’t create my reality…

For it does only if I permits it to be…

Yes I am hurt, coz I am aware that I choose to entertain your words to hurt me, for there is no way yours or anyone’s words can hurt me unless I allow it to …

I am aware and that I have a best friend in me, keeping me in check, this awareness I have within me, keeps me alert and filters off, your opinions your judgments and labels on me…

Your words came to me, for a moment of lapse, I felt the hurt, but that’s about it..For I risk this openness and authenticity of being me in the open thus I am aware of the risks of being looked at with your magnifying glasses…

Just as the tick of the seconds on the clock, that’s it. It stops there, I choose to stop your words from eating me up…It stops there…

I choose to love myself more than I choose to allow you words to stay and rot in me..

I choose to keep the weeds off my garden, and allow only the best seed of thoughts to come through me…

It’s tough being a woman, only if I allow it to be so…

I choose ease and grace of forgiveness..

My iron walls are only used to stop your realities from infiltrating mine….the rest I challenge with compassion of loving myself above all else Such that no matter what, I know who I am, my purpose, Intentions and contributions …

To you I may be the lousiest woman on earth, your standards…

To me relative to my own, I am my own best.. at most I have my best potentials within and every day I live, I live to inch forward towards realizing that fullest potentials in me to be the best I can be in all areas of my life…my kids, my family, my career, my life…

I may not be perfect in my acts, but I know my soul is Perfect, for my Creator, is Your Creator who has perfected our souls to be the Best of Him Creations…

Lies within me are Potentials.. and Lies before me are Resources..that I will use to my very best daily, in the capacity I can to Be the Best I can be, compared to you?? No Not you… compared to me based on my own beliefs about my own Soul’s potentials…

I will continue to fly and flap my wings and create my butterfly effects that will change the course of the winds… for every flap of my wings create a meaning, purpose and contributions beyond measure in my own ways…

I’ve said my Peace, thus I rest my Case of the Conversation of a Woman Vs Her Inner Voice

Suria

Writer is a Mom of 2, Nutritionist, Entrepreneur & Life Adventurer who is MADLY & Passionately in LOVE with Speaking & Writing to Lift the Spirit and Inspire the Soul..
Join Her Roller Coaster Life Journey at http://www.facebook.com/suriamohd

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Aug 18 2009

Idiot box, Moms & Daughters

Published by Charu M under Guest Coloumn

Garima Pant from India wants to share her views about effect of TV culture on youngsters with womenlines readers-

I am full of gratitude to my dear friend (who own this platform) for asking me(read challenging…that’s how I feel with all the rusting that corporate job has done) to write something on womanhood or parenting. That was even more challenging…notwithstanding the fact that she and I had passionately created a journal on precisely this during college. Ironically I don’t get time to consciously think about womanhood and parenting I have yet to experience! Nonetheless, all of my friend’s prompting has shaken my writer self and thoughts started bouncing back and forth until this evening I had a chance glimpse of Star Pariwar awards.

Well, I must tell you that I have never been a TV person and of late, having idiot box to watch with dedication is increasingly becoming a challenge with just one TV between two persons (you know what I mean!). In any case, after watching this award programme, I must say that idiot box is not all that idiotic when it comes to fostering cultural stereotypes which are valued as integral virtues of Indian family set up. No matter what, you can neither deny that cultural stereotypes do play a role in identifying on ethics society one belongs. Now the Star Award category list was interesting with ‘Best beta’, ‘Best beti’ and so on. Even more interesting were the clips shown for each nominations – as Indian as it could get! Would you still say that TV is spoiling the GenNext kids?? Not me… After catching glimpses of this extravaganza, I immediately recalled and recoiled to my trail of thoughts that had been lingering on since my very recent trip to Uttrakhand.

I had met my cousin there after a couple of years and she has almost completed her Company Secretary course and is contemplating a move to Delhi from Haridwar for an internship in a renowned MNC. She is an avid couch potato…that is another significant shift from the time I was a teen – girls (I am more thinking about them) are so particular and careful about what soaps they like and must watch. Unlike most girls of her age, her wardrobe is full of pretty salwar-kameez dresses, each one with its own story of creation. When I tried to offer buying her a dress, I was amazed how particular she was about what color combination, fabric and look she wanted for the very next dress she had to buy (a mehandi green-maroon mangalgiri cotton with wide brocade). I was reminded of my days when I would have just six pairs of dresses that mom bought to last entire college years. That’s what I mean when I say idiot box isn’t all that idiot! Youngsters know what they want. While discussing about her future, while she had ambitious plans about career, she believed an arranged marriage is better that that of one’s choice…that is also what she imbibed from her favorite soaps on TV! If she could potentially represent her generation to any extent then I can make another interesting revelation. Their flights of fantasies about encountering ‘prince charming’ could be something ever-green and romantic like the scarf getting carried away with a breeze to someone’s arms. Wish I too qualified for one such fancy…So I would rather believe that diverse genre of teleseries ranging from family soaps and reality shows are doing some good (let us look at glass as half-full) in shaping young minds.

That was on girls. I also feel that now moms have become so much more open, appreciative and ambitious about their daughters. Mothers, I believe have always seen the reflection of their unfulfilled or cherished dreams and desires in their girls but probably never felt they could do anything about it more than getting them the best possible match until recent times. With soaps like ‘Radha ki beti…’ and ‘Utran’ moms don’t seem to be missing the glory that having a son used to bring. Not only do they seem friends with daughter, they are anxious to see their girls bring laurels to them by excelling on career front. Moms are lending daughters their ear, experience and faith by having hearty chats and mature discussions – something that was pretty amiss in my time. My aunt (my cousin’s mom) knows for sure how her prospective son-in-law has to be. In lieu, moms are also enjoying more liberated and evolved company for themselves. My relations with my mom were quite formal and we hardly ever indulged in banters, at least not between just two of us. Not that my mom did not have dreams for me or would not have wanted to be different with me but then idiot box had not evolved so much. Nonetheless, my mom too is an avid couch potato and I am assuming the goodness of idiot box will flow unto me no matter a little late.

Garima Pant

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Aug 13 2009

Be a Queen!

Published by Charu M under Guest Coloumn

Mrunal Arun has come across such a motivating poem in Chicken Soup for Women Soul, she wants to share with Womenlines -

BE A QUEEN….
Be a Queen. Dare to be different. Be a pioneer. Be a leader. Be the kind of woman who in the face of adversity will continue to embrace life and walk fearlessly toward the challenge.Take it on!
Be a truthseeker and rule your domain, whatever it is – your home, your office, your family – with a loving heart.
Be a queen, Be tender. Continue to give birth to new ideas and rejoice in your womanhood… My prayer is that we will stop wasting time being mundane and mediocre…We are daughters of God – here to teach the world how to love…
It doesn’t matter what you’ve been through, where you come from, who your parents are – nor your social or economic status. None of that matters. What matters is how you choose to love, how you choose to express that love through your work, through your family, through what you have to give to the world….
Be a queen. Own your power and your Glory!
Oprah Winfrey

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Aug 07 2009

The 5 Mistakes to avoid & 3 steps to be a greater leader & communicator

Published by Charu M under Guest Coloumn

It is a world proven phenomenon that Great Speakers make GREATER Leaders. You too can excel at your work, in your business, in your family/ social life, politics, social work, etc. becoming a Great Speaker. Fortunately, Great Speakers can be groomed. Just look around & listen to communications, advertisements & speeches in the media / events/ seminars, etc. Some observations can be made on the way we communicate our message, affecting the quality & effectiveness of our communications/ speeches/ presentations.

The 5 MISTAKES TO AVOID

1) Speaking with artificial ‘western’ slangs & twangs/strong asian accents is affecting the quality of & sincerity in their message. If its not original, they can’t hold it for too long & comes across as them being UNREAL, even when they have the BEST message.

2) Lack of conviction / professionalism, as words are spoken with just slides & notes, & in the ‘head’.

3) Very bad language usage affects understanding of what they’re speaking about.

4) Focus is on themselves (speaker), “how ‘good’ they are coming across – (ego-talk), rather than the REAL message benefiting the audience/ listeners. This attitude puts-off the audience/listeners.

5) Speaking/Preaching what they don’t practise/ believe in. This is by far the most common mistake & listeners/audience can see through & will ‘shut-off’ when they do.

Where is the “heart” in what is spoken? Its time, we acknowledge how much many in Singapore/ Asia, lack, in the ability to “SPEAK” professionally. We may have the “substance”, immense values & real knowledge & a good command of MANY languages. But we need to TAKE MASSIVE Actions to STEP-UP & bring it across effectively, in an affluent, professional manner, so that we can stand out from the Global Crowd & Make our Mark.

The Fastest way to the ART OF ORATORY EXCELLENCE

THE 3-STEP STRATEGY

1) Remove artificial slang’s, twangs / strong asian accents when you speak. LEARN to Speak GOOD English (or any language) – & in the most Natural way it’s meant to be spoken.

2) Focus in your message with clarity in your heart.
3) Enhance your intrinsic values in speaking.

You can stand out from the global crowd in your career/life & achieve GREATER heights as a GREATER LEADER, when you can excel in both intrinsic & extrinsic values of communication.

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Article by Azeeza Jalaludeen PPTD (Proficient Professional Trainer Developer) & Communication Specialist, effectively multi-lingual in Mandarin, English, Tamil & Malay, with more than 15years experience in Relationship Marketing & People Development. She is the Co-Founder of SHINE Academia De Aedificatio (ADA),. SHINE ADA is a Global Professional Edification Institution with diversified, unique programs for Corporates & Individuals.

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