Leave the Bad and Keep the Good

Womenlines welcomes Anji Hallewell as an Influencer of Positive Mindset on the Womenlines panel. Anji is a Natural Strengths Coach, Trainer, and Founder of Hidden Lava.  In her sharing for this month, Anji is guiding how to make goals for 2019-

The energy of a new year often turns our attention to what goals for 2019 we want to accomplish. So, as the year ends it naturally makes us reflect on the year gone by and what we have achieved. For some of us, we didn’t set any goals and that’s ok too. You can still appraise how you have progressed this year. There will be things that you have learnt and there will be things to let go of too! You’re not at work, so no one is going to sit down and have an evaluation with you. So, you need to do that with yourself!

The subconscious mind does not know the time, so you need to tell it when something is over. Just like an artist will sign their painting to signify that it is now complete, we too need to do the same with events in our life – like the end of a year.

Here is something simple that you can do to reflect on the year and bring it to a close. Take yourself off somewhere where you can reflect. Perhaps that is the park, your balcony or your favourite coffee shop. Take a pen and paper or your tablet and block out 30 mins of quiet time for you to take yourself through the below process.

 

Step 1 – Put your phone on flight mode and turn off wifi. You don’t want to get sidetracked by Whatsapp messages, especially if you’re using your phone to take notes!

Step 2 – Start by bringing your attention to the present moment. With your eyes open, start to notice what you see in the environment around you. Also, do the same for your other senses, as we do have 4 more! What can you hear, feel through your sense of touch, smell and taste? All of which will naturally bring your attention to the present. Next, follow your breathing for a few cycles and when you feel calm you may begin.

Step 3 – Ask yourself the following questions. There is no need to rush through them. Take some time to mindfully think about your answers and jot down everything that comes to mind.

  • What good things have I achieved?
  • What things didn’t turn out the way that I wanted them to?
  • What lessons have I learnt and how have I grown?
  • What am I ready to leave behind me?

Step 4 – Review your answers and add anything else that feels right to add.

Step 5 – Turn your attention to the future and set yourself a positive intention for next year. Don’t go too crazy, go with one or two main things that are important for you to progress in life.

This is something personal for you to experience. It’s not necessary to share it with anyone else. In taking yourself through this, it will help you recalibrate your thoughts and intentions because when those two are in sync that is where the magic begins.

Happy end of 2018!

 

Anji Hallewell

Coach, Trainer & Founder

+65 8408 5042

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