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I never thought that I will feel so happy sometime in life while watching few (not all) serials on our Indian Channels!

Yes , its true! I am staying in Singapore for last 3 years and at times I feel so much disconnected with my country, specially around festivals, marriage parties and other gatherings. When I watch such serials, specially like Sasural Genda Phool and Yeh Rishta Kya Kahlata Hai, I just miss that warmth of relations which is shown  between various characters. Whether it is between two sister-in-laws or cousins or any relationship.  In India we still value relations and at time of need everybody is there around you. There are so many occasions to celebrate and you can share your happiness with so many people around. Love filled communication with relatives and teasing between youngsters fill the home environment with uncomparable joy.

Just like others, in foreign countries we also get used to routine schedule rushing after some dream, trying to reach desired destination. In the ,meantime we forget that life is just not for destinations. It is for bonding between people. Friendship bond, bonding between relatives, brothers, sisters,  and so many other relationships which just happen by chance. May be with your old neighbour. In fact that bonding can happen with your maid too. I was just mesmerized when my MIL’s old maid desperately called her sometimes back to share news about her marriage. I mean she literally called her in Singapore and requested her to attend her party. She has worked for many years at my MIL’s house. Special bonding and love between her and my MIL was the reason behind it!

 When I watch these serials it reminds me who am I and where I belong to. To be honest, then suddenly I realize that I am missing so many things and start searching my Indian identity within myself. I am also  not able to show my kid the importance of relationships. Somehow I feel good if my kid watches those serials as he comes to know different aspects of relationships which we are not following  here. I want to congratulate directors of both the serials who have come up with such brilliant topic and who have stressed on the importance of relations in everybody’s life.

Happy viewing!

Children need to feel our endless, unconditional love in order to grow, learn and trust. They need to love themselves so they can learn to love others.   

It’s a very natural fact for every parent and don’t think I am preaching the basics of parenting that please love your child, because every parent on this earth loves has  boundless love for their kids. My emphasis is on the second line that they have to love themselves first so that they can  have the feel of this emotion for everybody around them. This can be done only if he is getting ample of love from his near and dear one. THIS LOVE SHOULD BE EXPRESSED LOVE IN SOME FORM. No doubt that you must be having ample of love for your child but what matters is how you express it. Do you express it by buying gifts and toys for him. Or do you express by taking him out for his outings. Love shouldn’t be dependent upon material things. It should come out straight from heart and if you express it to your kid in some creative ways then it will leave everlasting effect on him. 

Kids must trust you that no matter what happens, whatever mistake they do they can come to you and you are always there for them. If this trust is there then nothing can come between you and your kid. 

I came across interesting sharing from a mother that how she  tied a little silver whistle from a long, red ribbon to hang on a wooden heart with a peg  and painted the words “Need a little hug? Give a little whistle!” around the edge of the heart. She hanged it on the kitchen wall. She was little apprehensive initially and thought that her kids are might too old for that and would think it is silly.But she heard the whistle blew,time by time, year after year. I consider it as a most wonderful way of communicating that kids need our time, they need to talk or need a hug. 

If you have will there are ways…Just give a thought how you want to love your kid!

Are you taking your parenting job very seriously?

Then you might be coming in smothering parent category with !

Take a break. Parenting is not a project to be finished with perfection. Its a life long journey and it has to be dealt with its requirement as and when needed.  Give space to your kids and to yourself too.

Parenting has become a big subject in today’s society and there are abundant books, classes, coaches, to guide you how to be a successful parent. But mind you, if your kid is observing you tensed and always worried . about some issue relating to him,whether its his studies, or diet or even hobby class he will never like it. He will more be pleased if he is observing you happy and contended with your life and taking it easily. Don’t create complications and unnecessary pressure for yourself by trying to be a cop parent.

Kids find their parents as their role model and they will exactly behave as you behave in your life. This should be warning signal for you  as whatever emotions also you are going through will effect him and will replicate you same way when he will grow up.

Start checking yourself if you are interfering in your kid’s life too much. Don’t always be bothered if he is not keeping up perfectly to everything you want from him. Let him be a normal individual who can also make mistakes and learn from them.

Life will be more full of happiness and love around if every individual is  having space for themselves and enjoying it individually under their own capacity.So stop being a smothering parent and let some oxygen come in between your life.

http://www.greatdad.com is a parenting site just for dads.Sounds interesting!

My all dear friends who are experiencing motherhood bliss must share this info with their husbands so that they can also learn something about parenting ways and contribute in parenting role in better way. Times have changed and bringing up child is no more a sole responsibility of mother only. As both parents work so both have to equally contribute in parenting role. Therefore site like greatdad.com is really a blessing to all fathers who want to be really guided about their fatherhood role.

There are various sections on the site like books for parenting, naming your baby, toys available in the market for different age groups and others. There is  section where different aspects of sleeping patterns are discussed and most popular one is Dad’s guide to get your baby sleep! Really its a challenging task for the new parents. So this article is there to guide you. There is a section called’ How to’ which deals with different activities to be carried with kids. For eg how to potty train your kid, or how to go for camping with your kid. Dads have to really learn a lot in this field and remind you they are not alone.There are so many dads around. Therefore there is forum to have discussions and blog section where parents can write about their feelings.

You can subscribe to  free newsletter of  great dad to get regular info periodically. So dad’s get set ready to explore the world of parenting with excitement and knowledge gained from greatdad.com. Keep going!

Family, kids, relationships- priority reasons for all the mothers who decide to stay at home and nurture their family! Its a tough choice in today’s world full of competition.

I wonder if my mom was working and was never around me around those moments when I needed her most and then I would have never got the right direction in my life. Now being a mother I wonder if I am not around my kid around his growing years then how he will get guidance. Then when I think about myself I have to search out for different ways to keep myself motivating to carry over my job of parenting I am doing.  I just thought to look around to search for those motivating  moments in life.

I am blessed to have friends who forward me such motivating mails-

Just a MOM???

SWEET MOMENT

Oh, this is really good…

“(I am also sharing this with a few men, who I know will understand it)
A woman, renewing her driver’s license at the County Clerk’s office,
was asked by the woman recorder to state her occupation.
She hesitated, uncertain how to classify herself.
“What I mean is, ” explained the recorder,
“do you have a job or are you just a …?”
“Of course I have a job,” snapped the woman.
“I’m a Mom.”
“We don’t list ‘Mom’ as an occupation,
‘housewife’ covers it,”
Said the recorder emphatically.
I forgot all about her story until one day I found myself
in the same situation, this time at our own Town Hall.
The Clerk was obviously a career woman, poised,
efficient, and possessed of a high sounding title like,
“Official Interrogator” or “Town Registrar.”
“What is your occupation?” she probed..

What made me say it? I do not know.
The words simply popped out..
“I’m a Research Associate in the field of
Child Development and Human Relations.”

What a glorious career!
Especially when there’s a title on the door.”

Its motivating in its true sense! Hats off to the person who has written it!

Womenfolk talk about women’s liberation, independence, and other issues but we should definitely not forget to remind ourselves to admire the beauty of  being a mother and how important is our job for us.

Definitely its not easy to make sacrifices always, there are times when you want to use your time your own way but your children are waiting for your attention, but we have to remind ourselves that God has blessed us with this oppurtunity to nurture a life and if we do this whole heartedly then we can create happiness around our children’s life forever. Enjoy your motherhood to extreme because time will fly away and you will never realize when your nest becomes an empty one.

Happy motherhood!