Women Lines

It matters to me!

At times I find being a woman is not an easy job and definitely not to mention to be an Ideal women. I wonder where those ideal women resides who perform all roles of being a wife, a mother, an employee, a daughter and a DIL, sister, friend and so many not to mention , with perfection. Will really love to meet one if she really exists in today’s  complex world!

World in which we are living today is though a blessing for today’s women. I am not talking about women liberation , or equal right distribution for women in our society. I want to focus on the multitudes of spheres in one life where women has to focus and work upon. As technology is making our life easy we are having other constraints to manage our life in an orderly fashion. In whole world around women issues start from the talk about being financially independent, she studies hard, builds a space for herself in society and gets married and becomes responsible for the welfare of the new family she has entered.Then starts her life managing herself, her office, her husband, her family and going forward kids come in picture.

Its matter of justifying all roles together.As an ideal women she should be a great cook who can prepare awesome lunch boxes, dinner and snacks for the family. As an employee she should be giving her best performance in office, prepare all reports timely, prepare excellent presentations and above all reply to all her mails…..wink wink:)! As a DIL  she should be taking care of her in laws, respect them , follow all family rituals, fasts, attend all function and entertain all guests with perfection. As a mother she should be always playful, ready for arguments, should always listen to her kid  and spend quality time with him.Then as a friend she should spend take out time for her friend, go for outings, shopping, movie time, invite for dinners, and much more. And mind you all roles have to be delivered in 24 hrs duration.

Hey , I forgot to mention role of being herself. As an individual she should be spending time with herself, take care of her health, body, exercise, eat healthy food, watch her favourite shows and movie, meditate, go to spas and lots more.

Is this job easy?I wonder!

But I enjoy being women.There is so much to do. Let’s not focus on ideal clause for being a women then you wont be under stress and enjoy your womanhood more. Its all about time management which we learn slowly by practise. Its also about taking one step at a time and multitasking those steps together. Balancing can only be achieved with a calmer mind so every women on this earth should exercise and meditate to discover herself. Think of at least 15 mins my time in whole day schedule where u do something for just your own happiness and I think it can do wonders in any women life.

I strongly believe that any family’s happiness lies in the happiness if the lady of the house. If she is not happy, unwell, frustrated then side effects start appearing on whole family. If we love our family then we have to take care of ourselves and start trying to find ways  to make ourselves happy.

So cheer up my fellow women, don’t stress yourself to be an ideal women. Have a vision for yourself and multitask allyour roles with perfection!

I never thought that I will feel so happy sometime in life while watching few (not all) serials on our Indian Channels!

Yes , its true! I am staying in Singapore for last 3 years and at times I feel so much disconnected with my country, specially around festivals, marriage parties and other gatherings. When I watch such serials, specially like Sasural Genda Phool and Yeh Rishta Kya Kahlata Hai, I just miss that warmth of relations which is shown  between various characters. Whether it is between two sister-in-laws or cousins or any relationship.  In India we still value relations and at time of need everybody is there around you. There are so many occasions to celebrate and you can share your happiness with so many people around. Love filled communication with relatives and teasing between youngsters fill the home environment with uncomparable joy.

Just like others, in foreign countries we also get used to routine schedule rushing after some dream, trying to reach desired destination. In the ,meantime we forget that life is just not for destinations. It is for bonding between people. Friendship bond, bonding between relatives, brothers, sisters,  and so many other relationships which just happen by chance. May be with your old neighbour. In fact that bonding can happen with your maid too. I was just mesmerized when my MIL’s old maid desperately called her sometimes back to share news about her marriage. I mean she literally called her in Singapore and requested her to attend her party. She has worked for many years at my MIL’s house. Special bonding and love between her and my MIL was the reason behind it!

 When I watch these serials it reminds me who am I and where I belong to. To be honest, then suddenly I realize that I am missing so many things and start searching my Indian identity within myself. I am also  not able to show my kid the importance of relationships. Somehow I feel good if my kid watches those serials as he comes to know different aspects of relationships which we are not following  here. I want to congratulate directors of both the serials who have come up with such brilliant topic and who have stressed on the importance of relations in everybody’s life.

Happy viewing!

Children need to feel our endless, unconditional love in order to grow, learn and trust. They need to love themselves so they can learn to love others.   

It’s a very natural fact for every parent and don’t think I am preaching the basics of parenting that please love your child, because every parent on this earth loves has  boundless love for their kids. My emphasis is on the second line that they have to love themselves first so that they can  have the feel of this emotion for everybody around them. This can be done only if he is getting ample of love from his near and dear one. THIS LOVE SHOULD BE EXPRESSED LOVE IN SOME FORM. No doubt that you must be having ample of love for your child but what matters is how you express it. Do you express it by buying gifts and toys for him. Or do you express by taking him out for his outings. Love shouldn’t be dependent upon material things. It should come out straight from heart and if you express it to your kid in some creative ways then it will leave everlasting effect on him. 

Kids must trust you that no matter what happens, whatever mistake they do they can come to you and you are always there for them. If this trust is there then nothing can come between you and your kid. 

I came across interesting sharing from a mother that how she  tied a little silver whistle from a long, red ribbon to hang on a wooden heart with a peg  and painted the words “Need a little hug? Give a little whistle!” around the edge of the heart. She hanged it on the kitchen wall. She was little apprehensive initially and thought that her kids are might too old for that and would think it is silly.But she heard the whistle blew,time by time, year after year. I consider it as a most wonderful way of communicating that kids need our time, they need to talk or need a hug. 

If you have will there are ways…Just give a thought how you want to love your kid!

Are you taking your parenting job very seriously?

Then you might be coming in smothering parent category with !

Take a break. Parenting is not a project to be finished with perfection. Its a life long journey and it has to be dealt with its requirement as and when needed.  Give space to your kids and to yourself too.

Parenting has become a big subject in today’s society and there are abundant books, classes, coaches, to guide you how to be a successful parent. But mind you, if your kid is observing you tensed and always worried . about some issue relating to him,whether its his studies, or diet or even hobby class he will never like it. He will more be pleased if he is observing you happy and contended with your life and taking it easily. Don’t create complications and unnecessary pressure for yourself by trying to be a cop parent.

Kids find their parents as their role model and they will exactly behave as you behave in your life. This should be warning signal for you  as whatever emotions also you are going through will effect him and will replicate you same way when he will grow up.

Start checking yourself if you are interfering in your kid’s life too much. Don’t always be bothered if he is not keeping up perfectly to everything you want from him. Let him be a normal individual who can also make mistakes and learn from them.

Life will be more full of happiness and love around if every individual is  having space for themselves and enjoying it individually under their own capacity.So stop being a smothering parent and let some oxygen come in between your life.

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My all dear friends who are experiencing motherhood bliss must share this info with their husbands so that they can also learn something about parenting ways and contribute in parenting role in better way. Times have changed and bringing up child is no more a sole responsibility of mother only. As both parents work so both have to equally contribute in parenting role. Therefore site like greatdad.com is really a blessing to all fathers who want to be really guided about their fatherhood role.

There are various sections on the site like books for parenting, naming your baby, toys available in the market for different age groups and others. There is  section where different aspects of sleeping patterns are discussed and most popular one is Dad’s guide to get your baby sleep! Really its a challenging task for the new parents. So this article is there to guide you. There is a section called’ How to’ which deals with different activities to be carried with kids. For eg how to potty train your kid, or how to go for camping with your kid. Dads have to really learn a lot in this field and remind you they are not alone.There are so many dads around. Therefore there is forum to have discussions and blog section where parents can write about their feelings.

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