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At times I find being a woman is not an easy job and definitely not to mention to be an Ideal women. I wonder where those ideal women resides who perform all roles of being a wife, a mother, an employee, a daughter and a DIL, sister, friend and so many not to mention , with perfection. Will really love to meet one if she really exists in today’s  complex world!

World in which we are living today is though a blessing for today’s women. I am not talking about women liberation , or equal right distribution for women in our society. I want to focus on the multitudes of spheres in one life where women has to focus and work upon. As technology is making our life easy we are having other constraints to manage our life in an orderly fashion. In whole world around women issues start from the talk about being financially independent, she studies hard, builds a space for herself in society and gets married and becomes responsible for the welfare of the new family she has entered.Then starts her life managing herself, her office, her husband, her family and going forward kids come in picture.

Its matter of justifying all roles together.As an ideal women she should be a great cook who can prepare awesome lunch boxes, dinner and snacks for the family. As an employee she should be giving her best performance in office, prepare all reports timely, prepare excellent presentations and above all reply to all her mails…..wink wink:)! As a DIL  she should be taking care of her in laws, respect them , follow all family rituals, fasts, attend all function and entertain all guests with perfection. As a mother she should be always playful, ready for arguments, should always listen to her kid  and spend quality time with him.Then as a friend she should spend take out time for her friend, go for outings, shopping, movie time, invite for dinners, and much more. And mind you all roles have to be delivered in 24 hrs duration.

Hey , I forgot to mention role of being herself. As an individual she should be spending time with herself, take care of her health, body, exercise, eat healthy food, watch her favourite shows and movie, meditate, go to spas and lots more.

Is this job easy?I wonder!

But I enjoy being women.There is so much to do. Let’s not focus on ideal clause for being a women then you wont be under stress and enjoy your womanhood more. Its all about time management which we learn slowly by practise. Its also about taking one step at a time and multitasking those steps together. Balancing can only be achieved with a calmer mind so every women on this earth should exercise and meditate to discover herself. Think of at least 15 mins my time in whole day schedule where u do something for just your own happiness and I think it can do wonders in any women life.

I strongly believe that any family’s happiness lies in the happiness if the lady of the house. If she is not happy, unwell, frustrated then side effects start appearing on whole family. If we love our family then we have to take care of ourselves and start trying to find ways  to make ourselves happy.

So cheer up my fellow women, don’t stress yourself to be an ideal women. Have a vision for yourself and multitask allyour roles with perfection!

Womenlines wants to share this article on parenting by Pooja Kawatra Gupta with its readers. Pooja is a mother who is enjoying her motherhood period by sharing her experiences with a group(she has formed on orkut) of other mothers(1000 mothers approx) on orkut. Here goes the story-

The day Aayan was born we knew that we both have come a long way from just being good friend, as a lover, as a husband & wife and now as a parent .He has given the new meaning to our life.. we realize that as a first time parent there were lot of things which we will be learning everyday .

Just reminded me that ” Kids are teachers and we are student”

Every new day comes as a beautiful moment to cherish for the life long. The day when you saw your baby in scan reports, when baby took the shape, his tiny little hands & feet, his heartbeat and every time your heart beat you think for a moment is it my heartbeat or my baby..Then you just smile back and say he is my heartbeat .That’s one in a lifetime when you have two heartbeat ..

When you hold your baby for the first time and keep remembering many of his first few and the day he says Papa & Mumma..You are at top of this world ..!! Aren’t we waited for this long to hear these beautiful words .

We know that with every new generation parents wants to give best to their baby .Trust me it not only babies have change over a period of time , parenting has gone under huge change. In today’s world it’s not just mother who is taking are of babies at home.. Fathers are equally involved in all the activities..right from the doctors visit at Gynaecologist to vaccination for Baby, which definitely gives mothers sometime for themselves.

Though with raising your baby, parents hardly get anytime for themselves but believe me raising your baby together not only give your baby but yourselves a lifelong security and comfort that both yes we were always there with our kids in each and every step he took in his growing years.

I still remember the time when I was expecting as been a working mother & staying far away from our parents, a first time parents we had enough of queries in our mind.. Why my baby is crying, is he hungry , not well, is there anything which I am unable to understand and so on..
So, my this first hand experience with raising my little son Aayan gave me the inspiration to start a platform where not only we all mums come together to help and resolve each other queries but to become friends for a lifetime. This is when I started a community : Mums & Babies ,we are close to 1,000 mums.. today with love & support of all wonderful mums, who have come long way to share their valuable experience, the best of the tips.. Our little wonders have got friends as well..

 http://www.orkut.com/Main#Community?cmm=50694960

If you are a new Mom then join her community to share the warmth and happiness of one big family……

Every parent wants to see their kid growing as a creative, happy child!  Isn’t it?

I, as a mother always try to find out various ways how can I help my kid to be more creative, and came across  few interesting ways which can definitely help your kids too.

1-Read, read, and read, at least for half hour daily to your kid. Make it a regular habit in your life. Make sure books you are choosing to read must be story books and can range between fairy tales, moral stories, stories about historical characters. Don’t read for the sake of reading. Try to be dramatic and read with all sort of expression you can but make sure you don’t overdo it.

2- Talk, talk, and talk to your kid. It should not be a parental talk about doing this, that or not doing certain things. Talks should involve  around certain things , may be how was your day if meeting after the whole day, or just inquire if anything interesting happened throughout the day. I f staying with him then you can discuss topics regarding nature if going out. Or if he is watching TV then ask his opinion about the show.Just give a thought, many ideas will come in your mind.

3- Colour, colour, and colour-

Coloring world is a beautiful world for kids. Their imagination boundaries are not restricted as their hands move freely. Their is no end to their imagination and at times you can get very interesting sketch up from your kids. If you also join them then painting can be really fun.

4-Music and dance-

Listening to music is a good relaxing exercise for kids. And with dance physical activity also happens. Just expose your kids to various types of music, be it guitar, piano, tabla, sitar and just observe which one is his favourite. Never pressurize him to learn music without his interest.

Singing and dancing together with kids can a fun activity and can be a bonding time for whole family.

I want to request my  friends that if they come across other ideas  to increase creativity in kids please share on this platform.

Family, kids, relationships- priority reasons for all the mothers who decide to stay at home and nurture their family! Its a tough choice in today’s world full of competition.

I wonder if my mom was working and was never around me around those moments when I needed her most and then I would have never got the right direction in my life. Now being a mother I wonder if I am not around my kid around his growing years then how he will get guidance. Then when I think about myself I have to search out for different ways to keep myself motivating to carry over my job of parenting I am doing.  I just thought to look around to search for those motivating  moments in life.

I am blessed to have friends who forward me such motivating mails-

Just a MOM???

SWEET MOMENT

Oh, this is really good…

“(I am also sharing this with a few men, who I know will understand it)
A woman, renewing her driver’s license at the County Clerk’s office,
was asked by the woman recorder to state her occupation.
She hesitated, uncertain how to classify herself.
“What I mean is, ” explained the recorder,
“do you have a job or are you just a …?”
“Of course I have a job,” snapped the woman.
“I’m a Mom.”
“We don’t list ‘Mom’ as an occupation,
‘housewife’ covers it,”
Said the recorder emphatically.
I forgot all about her story until one day I found myself
in the same situation, this time at our own Town Hall.
The Clerk was obviously a career woman, poised,
efficient, and possessed of a high sounding title like,
“Official Interrogator” or “Town Registrar.”
“What is your occupation?” she probed..

What made me say it? I do not know.
The words simply popped out..
“I’m a Research Associate in the field of
Child Development and Human Relations.”

What a glorious career!
Especially when there’s a title on the door.”

Its motivating in its true sense! Hats off to the person who has written it!

Womenfolk talk about women’s liberation, independence, and other issues but we should definitely not forget to remind ourselves to admire the beauty of  being a mother and how important is our job for us.

Definitely its not easy to make sacrifices always, there are times when you want to use your time your own way but your children are waiting for your attention, but we have to remind ourselves that God has blessed us with this oppurtunity to nurture a life and if we do this whole heartedly then we can create happiness around our children’s life forever. Enjoy your motherhood to extreme because time will fly away and you will never realize when your nest becomes an empty one.

Happy motherhood!

Shivali Mathur, a mother, home manager and an artist!

Womenlines introduces Shivali as entrepreneur of the month because of her extraordinary skills and achievements. Her story is motivating to all those aspiring ladies who want to create niche for themselves and also want to look after their family while managing their work from home.

Shivali is a commercial art artist. She is a Commercial art diploma holder from Jaipur college. She says that she never planned her career. She wanted to pursue modern office management but got admission in commercial arts. She was not aware

Woman who fills colours in everybody's life

at that time that she had taken a right decision for herself. She started her career in field of arts by taking art classes for kids in home. When she shifted to Singapore then her career graph started taking positive turns. She started making her own paintings. Once her little one had grown up, in 2005 she started taking drawing and painting classes in Singapore. That time she got a chance to participant as an Indian Artist in South Asian Art exhibition. There she got introduced to Temple of Fine Arts, Singapore and participated in three of the Dance India Taste India events organised in Singapore by them. She is also involved to promote Indian Art with India Tourism Board in Singapore at many of the events organised by them. Ang Mo Kio GRC also invited her to exhibit her art work at ‘Rhythms In Unity 07′. Along with all these activities, she also started conducting kids holiday workshops, kids birthday crafty workshops, art workshops for kids and ladies. Mind you ladies, her classes are not just only for kids and youngsters.Students of all age groups and from different walks of life come to her. She has students from age 50 to young as 4 years old. Some working women have also come to her to learn painting as they enjoy doing it and find it easy way to relax  themselves. Recently, she also got an opportunity to exhibit her art work and conduct workshop at ‘Celebrating Womanhood’, an event organised at Suntec, Singapore. Visit http://www.shivaliart.com/index.php to have a look at her work.

At present she has joined Global India international School as an Art and Craft CCA teacher and as a teacher for the Indian Club In Singapore Management University(SMU). In SMU, she is teaching various type of Indian paintings like Madhubani, Warli, Miniature paintings.

This path of her career has been built up by her hard work and dedication. In the meanwhile she became mother twice. She managed moving with her husband from one place to other, and is managing her home with a touch of art in it!

Its really aspiring ladies. If you have some art in your hand then don’t get it go waste!

You never know how God can help you out if you work with true dedication and integrity!