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How important is the special time spent with kids!

I came across this article by Dr Karen saze, which opened my mind regarding the way we spend our time with our kids-

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As homemakers most of the mothers will definitely raise questions regarding this topic. They spend whole day with their kids then whats is special time reference? Indeed mothers spend time with their kids but they never realize that  the quality of time they spend with their kids has lots of impact on your kids personality. As this article guides you about the importance of the way you spend time with your kid, you will also learn that kids need your love and praise not your commands  and orders.

As parents we at times become cops just getting anxious to secure our kids future and preparing them for journey of life. We always forget the importance of  precious moments of life which will never come back once gone. We should try to spend those moments of life filling with love and affection for our kids. They are bundle of innocence. Lets provide them atmosphere of love, praises and serenity around so that they can grow up to be individuals  full of love and emotions.

Kids are learning to read and write at very early age in today’s times. Thanks to over ambitious parents aspirations!

I came across this interesting article which will definitely open our parents mind. This article is written by Susan R. Johnson MD, FAAP, 5/7/2007-

There is a widely-held belief that if we just start teaching children to write, read, and spell in preschool, they will become better writers, readers, and spellers by the time they reach the first and second grades. This is, however, not true. The truth is that children only should be taught to write, read, and spell when their neurological pathways for writing, reading, and spelling have fully formed. There are many neuropsychologists, developmental specialists, occupational therapists and teachers who are concerned that our current trend in this country of pushing “academics” in preschool and kindergarden will result in even greater increases in the number of children, particularly boys, diagnosed with attentional problems and visual processing types of learning disabilities.

In order for children to be able to sit still, pay attention, and remember abstract shapes, like letters and numbers, they first need to have developed their proprioceptive system. In my clinical practice I see children who are being asked to sit still at a desk who can’t yet “feel” where they are in space. They have to keep their muscles and body moving all the time or sit on their feet or wrap their feet around the legs of their chair in order for their mind to locate the position of their body. They also have difficulty balancing on one foot while their eyes are closed. Their drawing of a person is more like that of a younger child, being stick-like in form and lacking hands and feet. These children are often given the label of Attention Deficit Disorder because they appear fidgety in their movements, have difficulty paying attention, and have poorly developed fine-motor skills. In addition, these same children are often labeled as having learning disabilities in visual processing (for example, dyslexia or other types of non-verbal learning disabilities). They have difficulty recalling letters, numbers, and shapes that are shown to them, and they are unable to recognize letters, numbers, and shapes that are drawn with a finger on their back. These children have difficulty remembering the orientation and direction of letters and numbers when writing, reading, or spelling. They often will confuse the letter “b” with the letter “d” and may write the number 2 or number 3 backwards and not even notice.

The proprioceptive system is strengthened by physical movements, like sweeping with a broom, pushing a wheelbarrow, carrying groceries, emptying the trash, pulling weeds, or hanging from monkey bars. When children do these types of activities they stimulate pressure receptors within their muscles, tendons, and joints, thereby allowing their minds to make a map of the location of these various pressure receptors within the body. A connection is made between the mind of children and the various parts of their physical body. In this way children develop a sense of where their body is in space (proprioception), and even if their eyes are closed, the children will be able to feel or sense the location of muscles, joints and tendons within their trunk, arms, legs, fingers, and toes.

Creating desirable behaviour in kids is a dream of every parent!

BUNDLE OF LOVE

As a parent we can occupy a powerful role in shaping the tone, texture, mood, and quality of our family system. I came across this set of questions while reading a book , and I want to ask my blog readers to answer to these questions as honestly as possible. You never know you will find answer to find ways of creating desirable behaviour in kids while answering these questions only-

1.What kind of family manager you have been up till now?

2.Do you treat your family as a project and follow day to activities while managing it?

3.Are you able to create a family environment which will bring out best from your child?

4.Do you have plan in your mind for what successful parenting is?

5.Have you created an environment that generates feelings of safety security, belongings, self-confidence, and strength for the child?

6.Is your family environment enough nurturing which can bring out authentic self of your child?

If we really want a healthy and nurturing family which can can provide atmosphere for successful and productive children  we  must commit our self to acquiring the insight and skills necessary to live the values, that we know in our heart are so important.

Kids always look for connection. They never want to be alone and it will really help them grow in a better way if they are well connected with their family members. These activities which I came across while surfing net and want to share with all those parents who really want to bring a positive difference in their kids life.-

1.CONNECTING WITH OTHERS-

Decorate a jar with coloured paper. Write “LUCKY US” on the outside. Once a week ask each family member write one positive sentence about another member of the family. Then place the slips in the jar. When you ask your child to write then first discuss with him thta whats special about him. Then what he likes most in his grandparents, parents.

At the end of the month open the jar and read what each person has written. There will be joy in whole family. Very exciting activity indeed!

2.EXPRESS YOURSELF NICELY-

This activity can be planned as per choice. You can do it daily, weekly as you wish. Make it a ritual for whole family that at the end of the each day everybody has to say something nice about each other. May be like “I liked the way you helped your grandmother” . When you speak these words then kids learn how to express their positive feelings for each other.

Recognizing children’s assets is another way which can helps us in moulding our child’s behaviour positively!

When we think of assets, we usually think about money in the bank or property, and natural resources like oil or gold. But every human being also has personal assets like gift of heart, mind, and that’s his true wealth. The more a person understands what these are and develops them , the richer his or her life will be. I came across this thought in one parenting book -”Every child is unique in himself. There may be particular talents, strengths, and conditions that are natural to follow when he or she learns. Being ineffective and going against a child’s grain is what squanders human resources. A willingness to wonder and be curious with a child about how to use his or her assets to overcome challenges increases effectiveness.”

There are different patterns which can help in determining those assets in our kids. Observe these features-

1.What are our child’s accomplishments?

2.What helps our child to concentrate , make decisions, and imagine new possibilities?

3. We have to give a thought on innate ways of thinking that our child excels at and is energized by.

It is emphasized in some parenting books that “Children whose assets have been recognized and supported are strong learners who trust their own abilities, they know and can explain how they learn and recognize what they need in any given situation. They can maximize both internal and external resources to satisfy those needs. They have ready access to their inventiveness, courage, intuition, and concentration. They know how to solve problem creatively, to care for themselves, to think well with others, to motivate themselves, and to evaluate their own performance. They know they matter, they know they are important, they know they can make difference to world”.

How much important is to recognize our child’s assets!

As a parent we have to shift our attention to child’s capabilities. Instead of worrying that our kid is not up to some performance like other kids, or giving generalized comments to our child with a thought of motivating him we have to  change our thinking pattern. We should notice what is true of our child’s capabilities, what he or she has accomplished, learned and achieved.  This recognition nourishes a child’s inherent sense of self-worth, the understanding that he or she possesses certain gifts, and it is her responsibility to share with rest of the world. (continued)