So the time has come for you to move out from your parent’s home for the first time!
Moving out of your parent’s house is a big step in life. It’s a process which comes into everybody’s life and can be handled better way with the right action plan. To help you successfully move out of your parent’s home our lovely Intern at Womenlines Stuti Singh has interviewed a few people who have shared their experience of first time moving out from their parent’s home with her. They have also shared tips that exactly helped them to face the challenges they had. Check out the interview in the video above and read insights shared by Stuti about the experience of moving out for the first time from your parent’s home-
Have you been considering moving out of your parent’s home first time? Are you having butterflies in your stomach? You are not sure how to plan to move out. Check out the video in which Intern at Womenlines Stuti Singh has interviewed some millennials who have already moved out from their parent’s home and have tips to share with you. Also, read insightful
The phase of young adulthood is treacherous and filled with many challenges and changes. It is a time in one’s life when they are neither comfortable being babied and questioned nor comfortable identifying with the heavy, complex, and ever-looming world of adulthood. It is like living in a grey area, where one feels like nothing in their life is really either how it used to be, or how it is supposed to be. Familiar cities do not feel so familiar anymore, and new cities feel too far away from the intimacy one gets used to. The city you once called home could have your favourite neighbour taken away from you, your beloved tea stall shut down, or your colony road revamped all because you moved out for a few years, and now you are back; searching for these long-gone memories.
As humans, it is only natural for us to look for this sense of belonging that we once used to cherish and hold onto, wherever we go because it gives us comfort, however, it is this search alone that causes us immense distress. From my experience of talking to and reading about students who have moved, I have had some significant realisations, the most important being that this search for belonging we crave from one place alone, is simply impossible.
As we move out of “our cities,” we make a conscious effort to integrate ourselves into “another city”-a city that isn’t our home, and there lies the problem. We create this unconscious well-defined distinction in our minds that this new city can never be like our once home. It then simply becomes a means to an end. A career opportunity, education, a promotion, or the need for change. Nevertheless, we come to learn these foreign street names, languages, traditions, and cultures. We put in consistent effort to surround ourselves with people that make the lack of familiarity a little more familiar; the question that then arises is, after this tedious process of integration, how does this “new” city not belong to us? Does it not become our own now that it is holding all our conversations, moments, feelings, and secrets? We need to focus on restructuring this search for belongingness so that it can include experiences that have always, or will soon, belong to us: like moving to a new city.
The independence that comes with moving can be enticing to most, however, the loneliness that follows this independence is seldom talked about. They go hand-in-hand like butter to bread. The initial months of moving will be the toughest, as you attempt to brave the storms of loneliness and isolation. As the saying goes, “The worst time to feel alone is in a crowd,” and you will find yourself feeling that emotion a lot. However, it is in these moments of debilitating loneliness that you really understand your true self.
You start to build a relationship with yourself and enjoy your own company. It isn’t going to be an easy process, but it is one of the sweeter things that comes out of the bitterness of isolation. An innocent love for the self. Try and actively engage with yourself. If you find that you do not have anyone to watch your favourite movie with? Go by yourself. Take yourself out to dinner, a concert, or to a wine tasting. The possibilities are truly endless for you; once you realise this, the power that comes with building a relationship with yourself will allow you to find those moments of joy amongst the mundane.
What are some of your favourite moving-out stories? Are you moving out in the near future? Share with us your thoughts! We would love to know.
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Majoring in Psychology, English, and Journalism
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