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Communication plays a key role in creating desirable behaviour in our kids!

The ability to communicate with others, to share experience, to collaborate, and to exchange information is very important in today’s times. To achieve it parents have to start setting the base since childhood  by having positive communication most of the time. Always think of mistakes as experiments rather that failures. Whenever your kid makes some mistake don’t react, or shout, just try to  create a positive environment.This act of yours will teach him how to handle your anger. You have to express your anger in words rather than in action. Words doesn’t mean you have to shout or yell, softly you have to make him aware that why you are upset. There are many ways to control your anger. Counting numbers, moving to some other place at that moment only, drinking water, and many more. Follow any habit but definitely do it. Most of the parenting books emphasize on th importance of communication in parenting.

One book I came across explains that one of the biggest misconceptions we suffer from is the assumption that all human beings use the same process of understanding. Every individual has different set pattern of thinking and understanding. We Have to understand that aspect of our kid while dealing with him or her. While communicating also we have to make him understand what is the appropriate behaviour in simple words. Don’t make the situation complex by acting as cops- “you should do this” ,”yous should not speak loudly”, “don’t go there”…etc. It takes extra effort to explain him the consequences softly  and with patience. Invest time in communicating with your kid. Try to understand his choices, his dislikes, why he said something wrong, what was his motive behind some particular wrong action. You will be amazed to see that how much he wants to share with you now.

At times we also make mistakes. Sometimes we scold our kid for wrong reasons, or by mistake we say something wrong, always say sorry. Never think being a parent you can take your position for granted. Always say sorry and see how easy it will be for your child to say sorry. There are many small talks during whole day which can create a huge positive impact on your child personality.

Happy Parenting!

Kids health http://kidshealth.org/parent/is an interesting site as it deals with parents, kids, and teens in different sections.

Kids section is having categories related to their interest. Like recipes, games, health, problems, injuries, feelings, etc. Every category is described in kids perceptive only.

Parents section is to solve queries from their side with topics like parenting, pregnancy, recipes for kids, etc.

Internet is a primary source to get information nowadays. Kidshealth.org provides detailed information regarding concerned topic which can range from any disease to knowing about pregnancy facts. Same goes for kids, all articles are written specially for kids knowledge only so that they can solve their queries regarding different topics at one place only. In fact cooking section provides recipes which kids friendly and can be cooked easily by them.

News section in parents section is one interesting feature which makes this website a different one. The latest news regarding kids , discoveries, happenings, and many other happening around the world is reported here.

Knowledge is power in today’s world and applied knowledge leads to success. This website provides right knowledge to right people at right time if used properly!

Skills development for kids is an issue which concerns every parent!

Times have changed and so the parenting ways.

Nowadays every parent desires best for their kids and want to empower their kids with all those skills which can help them to climb the ladder of life successfully and happily.

MegaSkills for babies is an interesting book to provide parents knowledge regarding those skills. Authors of the books say in the book  that

” Megaskills are our engine of learning and must be taught to kids to build their ability to learn.Aim to teach these 12 mega skills is to create positive learners.These skills are-

Confidence, Motivation, Effort, Initiative, Common Sense, Focus, Respect, Caring, Motivation, Responsibility, Teamwork, Preservance.

Skills help child become more aware of their own behaviour, and attitudes. They also provide oppurtunities for enjoyable learning, creativity, drawing, problem solving.”

What role parents can play, how to provide the caring and connectedness environment in home, what is it that enables every child to achieve in school and in life, all this you can learn after going through this book.

If you are a concerned parent you will rush to grab this book in nearby book store.After All we love our kids! Happy Parenting.

What you think about Parenting as a concept?
Ask any parent of today’s generation, he will not give you a strange look as he knows how much interested he is in the concept. Same question if asked to parents of our parents or grandparents generation then definitely they would have raised their eyebrows, because parenting for them is the most natural happening to them same way as marriage or other changes in life. Times have changed and so the new age parents. As we have developed with time in field of Technology, Science, Infrastructure, and other fields, we have developed a new concept to parenting also. Kid’s upbringing requires different objects around him at different stages of his life, to make him smarter, sharper, and active. This is the new age theory to expose kids to different objects from the moment they are in the womb. Mothers start listening to particular music, start reading subjective books to make their kids brilliant. The moment they are born they are exposed to certain music, CDs, videos, toys, just with the objective; kid will be smarter and intelligent when he will grow up.

I was following the same parenting concept till the time I attended Dr Laxmi’s parenting workshop!

What we do with our kids is what we want them to be. In between we forget that he himself is unique, with his own choices, and I cannot mould him but I have to mould myself as per his requirements. How can I waste his time in learning ABCs when the nature wants him to play around with his friends? How can I stress him solving puzzles, reading books, writing, when his nature clock wants him to play with sand around, climbing trees, and splashing water? He knows what he wants to do but we as a very aware parent, with wish to make our kid smarter in a lot just ignore his demands and make him do what we want for him. Music classes, dance classes, reading classes, swimming classes, piano classes, starting as early as from age 3 are really a blunder from our part. It was my sheer luck that I came across Dr Laxmi’s workshop. Dr Laxmi is a pediatrician (Neonatalogist). Before starting private practice, she was the HOD in CDR Apollo hospitals, Chennai. Following that she founded Little Hearts Children’s Hospital in Hyderabad, India in 1997. Her school of thought is that kids should have no sensory stress before age 5. They should not be forced to study before age 5 as their mind is not developed to that extent. Her concepts regarding free play time, choice of toys for your kid, diet pattern and other issues regarding kid upbringing are quite interesting to follow. I will discuss every issue in a separate article later. Parenting should not be taken as a duty. We as a parent can make huge difference in our kid’s life unless we are guided in a right direction. Thanks to people like Dr Laxmi who are making efforts to help us and guide us!

Its gives a strange feeling to even write  what I felt after seeing the photographs of boy Alfie holding his baby daughter in his arm!

No use of blasting the European culture of upbringing kids, or effect of modernisation on kids, or effect of access of different media on kids. It sounds cliche if we discuss it. Things are changing fast around but never realized that fast. Boy who is 12 year old involves himself with a girl, next door, sleeps with her and fathers a baby! He trys to portray himself to be a responsible father and says he will look after his child with full responsibility.

What to comment? That boy was living in such an environment that he was aware about the act of involving himself with a girl, and then getting her pregnant. Isn’t it alarming? Being a mother I am in a shock! How I will safe my kids childhood? How I will protect my child from all negativities of the media?

How I will safeguard his innocence? I am full of insecurity. But no choice I have to live with it….

Its really time to get alert. We as parents have to take certain steps to safeguard our kids childhood innocence. I am in a dilemma how to go about it! Should I remove all the access to media from my home. Should I stop bringing magazines, newspapers. Should I keep my kid at home only. Its tough to decide.

I am really confused. I can just trust my God and the way I am bringing up my kid. Morals and values definitely help in giving kids the right direction!