Women Lines

What you think about Parenting as a concept?
Ask any parent of today’s generation, he will not give you a strange look as he knows how much interested he is in the concept. Same question if asked to parents of our parents or grandparents generation then definitely they would have raised their eyebrows, because parenting for them is the most natural happening to them same way as marriage or other changes in life. Times have changed and so the new age parents. As we have developed with time in field of Technology, Science, Infrastructure, and other fields, we have developed a new concept to parenting also. Kid’s upbringing requires different objects around him at different stages of his life, to make him smarter, sharper, and active. This is the new age theory to expose kids to different objects from the moment they are in the womb. Mothers start listening to particular music, start reading subjective books to make their kids brilliant. The moment they are born they are exposed to certain music, CDs, videos, toys, just with the objective; kid will be smarter and intelligent when he will grow up.

I was following the same parenting concept till the time I attended Dr Laxmi’s parenting workshop!

What we do with our kids is what we want them to be. In between we forget that he himself is unique, with his own choices, and I cannot mould him but I have to mould myself as per his requirements. How can I waste his time in learning ABCs when the nature wants him to play around with his friends? How can I stress him solving puzzles, reading books, writing, when his nature clock wants him to play with sand around, climbing trees, and splashing water? He knows what he wants to do but we as a very aware parent, with wish to make our kid smarter in a lot just ignore his demands and make him do what we want for him. Music classes, dance classes, reading classes, swimming classes, piano classes, starting as early as from age 3 are really a blunder from our part. It was my sheer luck that I came across Dr Laxmi’s workshop. Dr Laxmi is a pediatrician (Neonatalogist). Before starting private practice, she was the HOD in CDR Apollo hospitals, Chennai. Following that she founded Little Hearts Children’s Hospital in Hyderabad, India in 1997. Her school of thought is that kids should have no sensory stress before age 5. They should not be forced to study before age 5 as their mind is not developed to that extent. Her concepts regarding free play time, choice of toys for your kid, diet pattern and other issues regarding kid upbringing are quite interesting to follow. I will discuss every issue in a separate article later. Parenting should not be taken as a duty. We as a parent can make huge difference in our kid’s life unless we are guided in a right direction. Thanks to people like Dr Laxmi who are making efforts to help us and guide us!

Recession and job cut-offs, are the hottest topics been discussed worldwide!

Every other company is thinking of reducing its staff or reducing the perks being enjoyed by the employees. The oldest and the youngest employees of the company are the easy targets for cut-offs. How to safeguard your job is the common concern for every professional. Suddenly professionals have become very active for their work. They are working overtime, trying to deliver their projects before deadline, and constantly trying to hone their skills to match the market requirements.

Its really unsecure to depend upon your job only for survival. Does’nt it makes you realize that you have to have some other survival kit in your hand, so that at the time of crisis you are just not dependent on your job only. With time while working, performing only one type of job makes you dependent on that work only. These times demand alertness now. You have to be aware about yourself very well. Keep honing your other talents as well. You never know when you have to use them in life for generating income.

You can be a good singer, dancer, good at arts, drama, computers, cooking, or in some other field. The point is that with time do you keep in touch with your talent. And that’s the key to feel secured. Obviously you won’t be generating  same amount of salary as you were doing before. It may take some time but your family won’t be on roads at least.

Start thinking how talented you are as you never know which new talent you can come across.Just start exploring yourself !

It just dawned upon me that we are in dearth of closer relationships in comparison to our previous generation!

True relationships are rare these days. As we get busier with our lives we devote less time to our relations and one day suddenly you realize that there is no warmth in your relationship. At times I think that friends, with whom you interact more become  more closer to you than your relatives. I wonder how to make such relationships more closer and stronger where everybody only says I am fine!

Honest relationships are those where you really care for the person and are really hurt if you find the other person sad. Many times husband wife relationship  becomes formal when both start saying to each other I am fine, what about you? Its odd, you stay together, eat together, have same family and still are not aware about your partner’s dream. That’s the loophole of any relationship. Be it friend, relative, husband, wife or even with kids. Demand for today’s time is to have verbal relationship. We say we don’t want to speak others feeling by speaking to him about his shortcomings. But then you are spoiling the relationship. Life is like really a puzzle, you don’t speak when you are required to speak, and you only speak when you are not required to speak.

Effort should be made to know the otherside completely. How you can aspect the other person open to you when you are not ready to listen to him. If you are not interested in his dreams, his likes, dislikes, what he thinks about other issues then why he will give you importance. Try creating interest in relationship and thats the key to any successful relationship!

Its gives a strange feeling to even write  what I felt after seeing the photographs of boy Alfie holding his baby daughter in his arm!

No use of blasting the European culture of upbringing kids, or effect of modernisation on kids, or effect of access of different media on kids. It sounds cliche if we discuss it. Things are changing fast around but never realized that fast. Boy who is 12 year old involves himself with a girl, next door, sleeps with her and fathers a baby! He trys to portray himself to be a responsible father and says he will look after his child with full responsibility.

What to comment? That boy was living in such an environment that he was aware about the act of involving himself with a girl, and then getting her pregnant. Isn’t it alarming? Being a mother I am in a shock! How I will safe my kids childhood? How I will protect my child from all negativities of the media?

How I will safeguard his innocence? I am full of insecurity. But no choice I have to live with it….

Its really time to get alert. We as parents have to take certain steps to safeguard our kids childhood innocence. I am in a dilemma how to go about it! Should I remove all the access to media from my home. Should I stop bringing magazines, newspapers. Should I keep my kid at home only. Its tough to decide.

I am really confused. I can just trust my God and the way I am bringing up my kid. Morals and values definitely help in giving kids the right direction!

History was created in Saudi Arabia when  when an expert on girl’s education became first woman minister as a part of a reshuffle.Nora bint Abdullah al-Fayez, a US-educated former teacher, was made deputy education minister in charge of a new department for female students.

Its a feat on the part of the Saudi Arab government as the country is known for its ultra conservative nature. Things are changing, though slowly, around the world. This step will certainly bring a ray of hope for those females in Saudi Arabia who want to do something in life.

Second achievement for the womenfolk happened for an Indian women.Suman Sharma, daughter of a retired Indian naval officer and an army colonel’s sister, became the world’s first woman to fly the mighty Russian MiG-35 fighter jet at the Aero India international air show in Bangalore.

The 30-year-old also became the first civilian woman to co-pilot the American-strike fighter F-16IN of Lockheed Martin two days before the biennial event took off at the Indian Air Force (IAF) base at Yelahanka, about 20 km from here.

Moment for proud for all of us as being Women when you read such achievements by members of your folk only, who passed out all hurdles in life and stepped into the men’s bastion which was a challenge in itself. They can go to  such heights then why not we dare to dream to see our self at some position in our future.

Your future is waiting so start celebrating, only if you dare to dream big. Happy dreaming:)!