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Thank you God for everything!

Kids are more inclined toward religion and spirituality in today’s times!

Its ironic but this is a fact and I must say is a pleasant fact. In today’s times many  kids enjoy following rituals , performing religious acts and thus believe in presence of supreme power. Thanks to all grandpas and grandmas who guide kids and teach them the importance of  religion in one’s life. Some parents are also quite religious nowadays and make sure that their kid is well aware of their religious and cultural values.Then there are various serials on television channels which showcase our culture in various forms. Festivals are celebrated in a gala way and whole family is shown celebrating festivals together and seeking blessings of their elder lies.

I am not offended at times when my kid watches those episodes of serials and  asks me various questions. In present time when I am staying away from India , I consider it good for him at least he is aware of  our colourful culture. Festivities, celebrations, and other various cultural events are not only the mode of activities but also brings bonding between various groups of societies, it teaches us the concept of eating and laughing together which has slowly started decreasing from our life. Without social bonding a man will be a robot, living for himself only and thus will be like an animal. Its very important to bond with others and it helps us  to be more humane in life. Besides that its very important to pray in life as it helps to relate to supreme power around you and you feel calmer.

Researches show that- “The kids whose parents regularly attended religious services—especially when both parents did so frequently—and talked with their kids about religion were rated by both parents and teachers as having better self-control, social skills and approaches to learning than kids with non-religious parents.”

Life is full of stress, not only for adults but for kids too.They have to involve themselves in studies, sports, curricular activities classes and thus become victim of this competitive world. Therefore kids should be knowing how to handle stress in life and how to release their negative energy. Religious activities not only relaxes you but also helps you in better understanding of yourself.Teach your kid about the power of belief in God. The best gift what I consider I can give to my kid is the better understanding of himself and if possible he can learn to develop inner strength to handle stress in today’s times.

Researches also claim that-” Strategies aimed at increasing personal meaning in children  — such as expressing kindness towards others and recording these acts of kindness, as well as acts of altruism and volunteering — may help to make children happier, Holder”

So don’t hesitate to talk about spiritual values  and power of prayers to your kid….After all you are gifting him a mode of seeking happiness in life which any parent will love to do!

Womenlines wants to share this article on parenting by Pooja Kawatra Gupta with its readers. Pooja is a mother who is enjoying her motherhood period by sharing her experiences with a group(she has formed on orkut) of other mothers(1000 mothers approx) on orkut. Here goes the story-

The day Aayan was born we knew that we both have come a long way from just being good friend, as a lover, as a husband & wife and now as a parent .He has given the new meaning to our life.. we realize that as a first time parent there were lot of things which we will be learning everyday .

Just reminded me that ” Kids are teachers and we are student”

Every new day comes as a beautiful moment to cherish for the life long. The day when you saw your baby in scan reports, when baby took the shape, his tiny little hands & feet, his heartbeat and every time your heart beat you think for a moment is it my heartbeat or my baby..Then you just smile back and say he is my heartbeat .That’s one in a lifetime when you have two heartbeat ..

When you hold your baby for the first time and keep remembering many of his first few and the day he says Papa & Mumma..You are at top of this world ..!! Aren’t we waited for this long to hear these beautiful words .

We know that with every new generation parents wants to give best to their baby .Trust me it not only babies have change over a period of time , parenting has gone under huge change. In today’s world it’s not just mother who is taking are of babies at home.. Fathers are equally involved in all the activities..right from the doctors visit at Gynaecologist to vaccination for Baby, which definitely gives mothers sometime for themselves.

Though with raising your baby, parents hardly get anytime for themselves but believe me raising your baby together not only give your baby but yourselves a lifelong security and comfort that both yes we were always there with our kids in each and every step he took in his growing years.

I still remember the time when I was expecting as been a working mother & staying far away from our parents, a first time parents we had enough of queries in our mind.. Why my baby is crying, is he hungry , not well, is there anything which I am unable to understand and so on..
So, my this first hand experience with raising my little son Aayan gave me the inspiration to start a platform where not only we all mums come together to help and resolve each other queries but to become friends for a lifetime. This is when I started a community : Mums & Babies ,we are close to 1,000 mums.. today with love & support of all wonderful mums, who have come long way to share their valuable experience, the best of the tips.. Our little wonders have got friends as well..

 http://www.orkut.com/Main#Community?cmm=50694960

If you are a new Mom then join her community to share the warmth and happiness of one big family……

In today’s busy pace of life we at times wonder that how we can possibly involve our self or show interest in our child’s education!

As both parents are working it is not possible for them to put much time with their kids for their studies. It is also possible that you have never performed well in school and never excelled in mathematics and then you are not eager to involve yourself in your kid’s studies as you are reminded about your days.

Getting involved with children in their studies does not mean that you have to involve yourself in your child studies

Simple ways like listed below can definitely help you to relate to your child through studies-

1.Show interest in what they are learning. Do ask them”What did you do at school today? Then you can discuss about what are his problems in any particular subject or what is it that he likes most. Try to make your conversation very light one not like a strict parent.

2.Do find time to attend his school meets and various other programmes. You can participate also in some activities which involves parents and kids both. This will boost his morale.Try to go to his co-curricular classes, sports classes and discuss with him about his interests.

3.What type of environment you have created at home also effects your child’s personality. Buy books, magazines. Provide him  all those extra resources that will help him in studies. If he will never see you involved in some type of study then he will never get motivation. Try to discuss about books he is reading from the library.

These activities will help you in better understanding of school activities. You can observe how well your kid is performing and progressing. Besides this it gives a chance to parent to personally interact with his child and thus helps in strengthening their relationships. When your child will see that his parent is so involved in his activities then his self esteem will increase. He will grow with a positive attitude in life and will excel in all spheres.

It is said that “Teaching is the profession that teaches all the other professions”. Teachers are considered to be builders of future pillars of our country. They should be given respect and motivation for the work they are doing.

Teachers have their own reasons for not taking their work seriously and the most common is that they are underpaid. I want to request the concerned authorities that they should include the teaching profession in the highly paid job list so that we can have talented teachers around.

For many families, talking about money is taboo. The adults make it, the kids ask for it, end of story. Yet financial experts agree that understanding cash, credit, and consumerism is possible, and important, for building a sense of financial responsibility in children. Womenlines will share various ways in future how we can develop money sense in our children.

• Take an active role in providing them with information. Observation and repetition are two important ways children learn.
• Communicate with children as they grow old about your values concerning money how to save it, how to make it grow, and most importantly, how to spend it wisely.
• It is very important to help children learn the differences between needs, wants, and wishes. This will prepare them for making good spending decisions in the future.
• Setting goals is fundamental to learning the value of money and saving. Nearly every toy or other item children ask their parents to buy them can become the object of a goal-setting session. Such goal-setting helps children learn to become responsible for themselves.
• Introduce children to the value of saving versus spending. Explain and demonstrate the concept of earning interest income on savings. Consider paying interest on money children save at home; children can help calculate the interest and see how fast money accumulates through the power of compound interest. Later on, they also will realize that the quickest way to a good credit rating is a history of regular, successful savings. Some parents even offer to match what children save on their own. (contd)