Womenlines welcomes Anji Hallewell as an Influencer of Positive Mindset on the Womenlines panel. Anji is a Speaker, Coach, Trainer on Self-Mastery & Performance and Founder of Natural Genius Academy. In her sharing for this month, Anji is going deep in what it takes to increase competency level –
One of the best ways to stretch yourself and become better at something is to hang around with people who are already further ahead than you are in a specific role, skill or attribute. For example, if you want to be a better Manager, then hang around with good Managers. If you want to become a better networker or more socially comfortable, then hang around with others who are already there. Notice what they do and then model what makes them good at it. Modelling excellence is nothing new, it’s been something that humans have done for decades.
Now, of course, you need to sidestep the inner critic as it could come out in full force to point out that you’re not as good as them as something. I mean, talk about stating the obvious! However, it’s nothing a little willingness, self-coaching and determination can’t overcome. It’s ok to recognize that you are not as good, YET! Yet, being the operative word.
On a personal level, I continue to want to be a better speaker, so guess what? I hang around people who are better than me. Some of them have 10-20 years on my inexperience. And do you think that this can trigger my inner critic? Of course! I am human and I certainly have an inner critic, just like anyone else. I was at a recent rehearsal for an upcoming event and these three words of wisdom popped out from a very established speaker’s mouth, in his feedback. And, by the way, these three words can be applied to anything that you want to thrive in – it certainly doesn’t only apply to public speaking. So, now you are going to want to know what these three words were, aren’t you? Well, they were – comfortable, confidence and credibility.
Think about what needs to be present for you to be great at something. And by great, I mean that you are unconsciously competent at something that you were once lacking. Firstly, you need to feel comfortable with where you are in your stage of learning and proficiency level. Sure, there’s more to go, but be proud of your progress wherever you are. Once you are feeling comfortable than that, in turn, ignites a new level of confidence. What steams from this is a sense of self-efficacy, which feeds into your credibility in this area. Can you be more comfortable, confident and credible – absolutely! But competence comes in stages. Often, we compare ourselves to people who are so far ahead of us that it’s hardly surprising that the gap in proficiency feels large. So, forget the gap and focus on the steps that you can take to become more comfortable, confident and credible along the way. That is how you can reach a stage of unconscious competence and thrive in al that set your mind to.
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Founder of Natural Genius Academy (formerly Hidden Lava)
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